On May 15, 1966, Shirley Ebenstein married Norman Ebenstein. He was her uncle. The wedding took place in Brooklyn, New York. Shirley Ebenstein’s obituary published in the Miami News-Tribune on January 9, 1999, has a brief history of the marriage of the two.
Shirley and David met at the Stuyvesant High School in Brooklyn. They married in 1936. The wedding was attended by her parents, father-in-law, grand-parents, brothers and sisters. It was a small wedding. David was able to graduate from the same school as Shirley and they were married shortly thereafter.
David worked for a time as a clerk in the Brooklyn Health Department. He was a past president of the National American Legion Post 40 in Utica, New York. Norman Ebenstein was a U.S. Merchant Marine Officer, and trained in San Diego in the period from 1941 until 1944. He served aboard the U.S.S. JOHN RENO and later the USS CARLTON. He was awarded the Bronze Star Medal, the Purple Heart, the Legion of Merit, the Navy Cross and the Navy Commendation Medal.
The obituary also has a short history of Norman Ebenstein’s wife. She is described as being “a beautiful woman of about 40”. Another obituary entry describes her as a native of Europe, whose parents died when she was very young.
It appears that the obituary described the two in a loving way. Though the obituary takes pains to note the age difference between the couple, there are no details about how they met.
The obituary also says that they were in Boca Raton for a cruise. No further details are given about the cruise.
The obituary also mentioned the health of the couple. Shirley was described as being “free of any medical problems.”
The obituary mentions that the family had two sons, one who was working in New York and the other who lived in Boca Raton. His occupation was listed as a packager.
The obituary mentions that Norman Ebenstein’s wife suffered from a heart attack in 1963. A brief article about her appearance was included. The obituary stated that her face was “brighter than ever.”
The obituary stated that the marriage lasted only about two years. The following is a description of the mother-in-law and the father of the bride:
She would spend most of her time with her daughters in her new life. She, too, seems to have found it difficult to adjust to the unusual customs of the Jewish community.
This obituary is an excellent example of how a person’s obituary can be used for the purpose of social commentary. The mother-in-law’s description as “bright”brighter” points out how the new community of Jews was ready to accept her husband as part of their group, but she was not ready for the values he represented.